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If you’re under 65, you might find these questions somewhat unnecessary, and this 3-minute read a little premature. That’s okay, just skip it for now. I’m trying to find my audience of aging women who are struggling a bit to move into a stage of life they were hoping would just take its good ole’ time. But if you’re there, and if you want to stay relevant and purposeful, let’s support and learn from each other.

What kind of life do you want to live with the time you have left on planet earth?

What purpose do you want to fulfill while you still can do so?

What would your life look like if you believed you were being your best self?

What is holding you back from living your best life now?

Are we living now in processes that will be completed later in eternity?

How do I accept and participate in the concepts of physical aging and spiritual developing?

Since the future is uncertain at best, shouldn’t I show up as prepared as possible and live each day to its fullest with those two concepts in mind?

Turning 70 is going to be hard for me. I can already feel the heaviness of it. I know it is just an indication of how many Earth years I have on this body. I know my life is a gift and every day God gives me is truly undeserved. I know that although my exterior is fading away, my interior is being renewed day by day. (2 Cor. 4:16) This day-by-day renewal is the epiphany I have experienced recently that has led me to develop this new way of living in and through my aging body.

G.L.O.R.Y. is an acronym for 5 practices that I try to live out each day that are aimed at the goal of living joyful and lined up with achieving my God-given purpose in my later years.

                G – Gratitude (first thing every day)

                L – Learning (reading, attempting or mastering something new)

                O – Open Heart (prayer, meditation, serving others)

                R – Reflection (review, journal)

                Y – You (nutrition, exercise, envision)

I believe that doing certain practices repeatedly will yield results that eventually lead us to achieve our dreams or goals that, in turn, bring us joy.  A byproduct of joy is strength that we need to be able to pour into relationships and the communities we are a part of. The cliché that “You can’t pour out of an empty cup” is so true. By practicing the G.L.O.R.Y. way each day you will have the tools that help you to be at your best as you show up for your life, your loved ones, your work and your community.

I will dive deeper into these practices later, but right now I would like to share that my intention in this is to give women tools to help them remain vibrant and relevant, living into their God-given purpose throughout every season of their lives. Me included.

These practices can be done at any time during your day, but I highly recommend that they happen within the first hour of your day. How we start our day greatly influences how the day turns out; so why not give yourself the best chance for a successful day whenever you can? Maybe set an alarm an hour earlier than when you need to be up and about for other tasks.

I am a follower of Jesus Christ, as my Savior and Lord, He is my Reason to live a life that brings Him glory. Even if you are not a person of faith, these practices can bring about positive outcomes. All people are made in the image of God, and each practice has been tested, tried and true for generations. Just because I have put together these daily disciplines in an easy to remember catch word does not mean this is some new or unique process. I only know that I am convicted and compelled to share with others what God has entrusted to me.

My prayer is that this helps you on your journey into that sometimes-scary pathway to the version of yourself that may be a little bit hard to accept at times. “Aging gracefully” does not happen by accident. Purpose is another word for intention, and we will not live into our purpose without intentionally living day by day in a way that is directed toward being the best version of ourselves that we can be. Let’s go on this journey together!

Please drop a comment if this resonates with you. God Bless!

Vickie

I was at an event last weekend when my memory failed me. It wasn’t the first time, but I think it’s the first time it’s lasted, and I’ve pretty much given up remembering her name. She had such a kind face, and I recognized her right away, but I couldn’t for the life of me remember her name. And it scared me. She recognized me and remembered who I was as she took the initiative and started a conversation. Apparently, she was a former employee of mine. Someone I had trained and invested time and resources in and entrusted clients to, and I can’t remember her name? As we carried on the conversation, awkwardly on my part, I kept hoping her name would come to my mind, but it never did, when I could have saved face. But it didn’t, and it hasn’t yet.

Usually I will have an “aha” moment in the middle of the night or the next day but not this time. I wish I could understand why. I can remember some of the most insignificant things from decades ago. I can remember all the names of my elementary school teachers. First through 8th grade. Not that they are not significant, but believe me, that was a very long time ago! I remember which day of the week we had cinnamon rolls and chili from the school cafeteria. Wednesdays. The color of my first Troll doll’s hair; apricot. And how she smelled like new plastic. How significant is that?

This leads me to worry about my memory of important things, like my faith and all I’ve learned from the Bible about Jesus and all the things God has blessed me with and what to say when someone asks me why I believe what I believe. But, thankfully, I was reminded of a verse in the Bible, John 14:26:

But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things and bring all things to your remembrance whatsoever I have said to you.

So, as I reflected on that experience last weekend, I felt the Holy Spirit wanted me to learn an important lesson. I should have swallowed my pride and told her that her name escaped my mind and apologetically asked her for it. I should have enjoyed her reaching out and connected like any grown up should do. Here again, I got distracted by my inability to remember. I repented and hope to do better next time.

Dear friend, it is bound to happen, forgetfulness and regret. What is so telling is that John 14 is a chapter I committed to memory a few years back. I couldn’t recite it today but I did remember that the verse about remembrance was there. Maybe that is what Jesus meant. We can’t even hope to remember something we have not read and meditated on or at least made a conscious effort to notice. What Jesus has said to us in His word is certainly worth paying close attention to so He can bring it to our minds when we need it.

There’s a popular gospel song getting a lot of play this year, called “Still Waters” which can attest to this. It is by Leanna Crawford, and I hope you give it a listen.

Let’s all follow “Aunt Maurine’s” advice. I know if we do our part, the Holy Spirit will do His.

It’s been three years since I retired from my nursing career, and the fog is starting to lift.

At my desk as I write I glance up at the wall that holds my retirement plaque with all the best wishes from the amazing women I worked with at the “end.” All the kind words about the best yet to come and all the adventures that lie ahead. Congratulations and Happy Retirement sentiments. But can I just say that even though there’s lots of hopeful meanings in the messages, I’ve struggled a bit to realize them? This is my attempt to reflect on why.

On a very foggy winter evening, I was driving my husband and I home from an event when I became so disoriented that the route I’ve driven over decades of my life was unrecognizable to me. I had to stop the car to try to figure out where I was before I could go any further. Before I was allowed to figure it all out, he took the wheel, and we eventually made it home safely. This analogy helps me clear some of the fog that has been closing in on me to see a clearer path forward. The path where God is at the wheel.

One question I grew to dread post-retirement was, “How are you enjoying your retirement?” Of course, I loved being available for my family more and spending more time with grandkids and not having to try to trade hours or make sure I had vacation to cover an absence. But still something was nagging my soul. I know that I am not discovering anything new here, the decision fog of what to do with your time when you are the one appropriating it. But it was new to me. When every day is potentially a day off, and you get to decide how to spend it. I had never truly been there before and you, my dear reader, may have this ahead of you, be in the fog right now, or are gloriously living beyond it. It is my prayer that this helps you not to dread that kind and caring question.

There are purposes and plans for us that may not be tied to our careers, or age, and we do not have to have a productive day to verify our worth or prove to the world that we are worthy to take up space. God is allowing each breath we take and will never fail to continually shower us with blessings as we seek Him. I have seen this in my own life and want to encourage you to reflect on all the good things He allows in your days. Give gratitude to Him and become more joyful, stronger in faith, and peace filled. This is our ultimate purpose. Living in God’s will is the plan.

Ask God what the next assignment is. Then listen and watch as He speaks into your heart with a clear direction. Then follow it. That’s obedience and He loves it. Ask the Holy Spirit for discernment for God will never ask you to do anything that is contrary to His Word. That is why Bible Study is so important if we want to live a clear, godly purpose in this world. This doesn’t mean it will be easy, in fact, it may be truly difficult to stand for truth and speak the truth in love. But there is no greater joy than to know that Jesus is with us; I have experienced the sweetest times in His presence when the pain I was experiencing could not be relieved by what this world had to offer.

So, the fog is clearing, with God at the wheel, I can navigate new-to-me territory, and the view is amazing. I wish I could say that I’ve made the best use of my “free” time, but that would not be the truth. I wish I would have spent less time wringing my hands and wondering what to do and more time seeking, asking and receiving. But some lessons take a while to learn and there’s always forgiveness, restoration and redeeming of “lost” time. That’s what only God can do, if we let Him.

Let Him.

Pray that His Holy Spirit will guide you to do the things, speak the words and live your days for His glory. If you have trouble finding the words, borrow some from King David. After 13 verses of praising God for His creation, His Word and expressing his longing to be using his time and energy and all he is in ways that please His God, David says in Psalm 19:4, “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.”

And for those of us regretting the time spent in the fog of indecisiveness, let’s take heart in the promise of God that we find in Joel 2:25, “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.”

Just the thought of these consuming critters sends chills up my spine. But they remind me of how if we live fearful of stepping out of our comfort zone, or are preoccupied with what the world thinks, those fears can eat away at our resolve and before we know it, the great gift of time that God gives us to live for His glory and serve Him for His glory can slip away. Don’t let it.

For His glory, I believe I have my answer ready the next time someone asks, “How are you enjoying retirement?” I can honestly say, “It’s a good journey and I truly am happy to be on it.” As the fog clears.